One of the biggest factors of success in the business is your ability to pick the right MLM for you.  Obviously, there are many opportunities out there, but picking the right opportunity will ultimately decide your fate.

Does the company have the right systems in place?

How fast is it growing?

Most Common Mistake

So what is the number one mistake most network marketers make? It’s talking too much about their opportunity!

So what does it mean to talk too much? This is the most common mistake that I see in network marketers. You attend a presentation, hear from a great speaker on how much money you are going to make and come out of that meeting fired up and ready to sign up the world! So you set meetings or start calling people on the phone and telling them how excited you are about this new opportunity and how you and they are going to make a crap load of money only to get rejected by your supposed friends and or family members.

There are a couple things wrong with this approach. Number one, you do not have the information to even be discussing the opportunity if you have only been to one presentation and two, whatever you say or do is absorbed and analyzed by the person you are talking to as exactly what they have to do to build the business and if you are bending their ear for 30 minutes or more, they know they do NOT want to do that!

So, what should your approach be? It is certainly a good idea to tell your friends and family members what you are doing but it’s a much better approach to stay vague about it and talk to them for less than 10 minutes. One thing you may try is talk with the person that sponsored you and get him/her to agree to help you with your prospects. That way, you can tell your friends, family members and any prospects that you don’t know everything about it but your friend can fill in the details. Another way is to get them to a presentation like you attended. A great, non-threatening way is to say “Look, I respect you, I think you respect me, come to this meeting and if you like it, Great, but if not, no big deal!”

Who To Approach and How

Who should you approach? It would be easy to say, EVERYONE, however, that is probably not the case. I look for positive, like minded individuals that I actually want to work with. You most certainly want to tell your friends, family or any lead you are generating, about what you are doing but again, do not chase, beg or bug them, just let them know what you are doing so they know. If you are in a fast growing network marketing company, there will be instances when people join AFTER you have joined as they did not know you were in it already. I have personally had this happen to me many times so DO NOT make this mistake!

So, how to approach people about your opportunity? Do not overload them with information or your excitement. It should almost be like fishing. Throw some bait out there and see if they bite. Ask them how they are doing and when they ask you how you are doing you might say something like: “I’m doing great, I’m working on this new project that is really amazing, oh, by the way, how are your kids?” Dropping a line like that might illicit them asking you for more information. Be prepared to answer them with another brief sentence or two about your opportunity. You do NOT want to appear like you are pushing it, but, as they become more intrigued you can share a little more but be very careful not to go in for the kill too quickly. If you want a really, really good book on networking, I highly recommend Bob Burg’s Endless Referrals, which, Amazon has on sale here – Endless Referrals, Third Edition Just don’t “throw up” your opportunity on people.

Overcoming Objections

You’re involved in a pyramid scheme! Only the people at the top make money! I don’t know anyone! I am dead broke and can’t afford it!

Have you ever heard any of those objections? If you are in network marketing I bet you have heard them many, many times! So let’s discuss overcoming these most common objections.

You have a couple approaches to the “You’re involved in a pyramid scheme” objection. Here are a few answers that may help:

- Do you say that out of personal experience or sheer ignorance?

- Do you work for someone? Ever notice how the owner makes more than the managers that make more than the supervisors that make more than the employees that make more than the janitor? If you drew that out graphically, THAT would be a pyramid! Don’t take my word for out, some gentlemen you make have heard of; Donald Trump and Robert Kiyosaki, wrote a book on it and said this exact thing. In fact, in a recent interview Donald Trump said that if he had to do it over he would have done a network marketing company! And how about the richest man in the world, Warren Buffet, buying a network marketing company (pampered chef) for $400 million! I don’t know about you, but I suspect those guys know a little more about money than I do.

- Yeah, you are right; this may not be for you.

Now, how about that last response? That is known as the takeaway and that will allow you to never get too stressed over network marketing. It is your ace in the hole. The second biggest mistake made by network marketers is spending too much time on the wrong people!

Now, the second objection of  “Only the people at the top make money” is pure hogwash. It’s how hard are you willing to work. You can partner up with me in my primary business and do much better than me or worse than me or do absolutely nothing at all.

The third objection of “I don’t know anyone” is an easy one to overcome. Have them immediately pull out their cell phone and ask themselves for each individual in the phone if they are interested in receiving the benefit of whatever product you are promoting and or making extra money on the side. They should be able to come up with at least thirty people.

The fourth objection of “I can’t afford it” may be a little tougher but in probably 90% of the times, it is not the true objection. Do they go to Starbucks everyday? Do they buy lotto tickets? Do they go out to eat all the time? Do any of those activities TRULY give them an opportunity to possibly retire early? The other way to approach this, and the one that I prefer, is to ask them if they had planned on being broke when they reached the age they were at. Because if they are broke doing what they are doing, isn’t it time for them to at least TRY something different? Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Keep it real with people.

Keeping the Faith

Now, you have to realize that network marketing is one of the ONLY businesses out there that does not have a 5 or 10 year plan to retire, you can legitimately be wealthy after only 1 or 3 years in the right company. And that is without a college degree, very much risk and building it part time! If you work any network marketing company for any length of time you are going to hold meetings where not one person shows up. You are going to get a whole lot of people tell you that you are crazy and or it is a scheme and tell you NO. So what! If you have a bad day at work do you go in the next day? You probably do and what is bad is the job probably has a 30 year retirement plan that will pay you peanuts when you are too old to work anymore!

There are a lot of great books out there for keeping the faith. One of my favorites is Rhonda Byrne’s, The Secret, which, you can pick up here from Amazon - The Secret . I imagine that a lot of you have read this one already and if you have, READ IT AGAIN!

One surefire way to keep the faith is to MAKE MONEY! It is so important for you to keep in contact with your team via email, phone, or whatever means is best for you and your team. Do for them and they will, naturally, want to do for you.

Let me know what you guys think by leaving your comments below! Make it a great day peeps : )

Sometimes this “defective feeling” that we have can be the number one cause of most people’s failures at almost anything they do in life, not just in their new online business…

And it’s something that shows it’s little head throughout many different parts of our lives and if we ONLY knew how to ‘See’ it… if we only knew what a blessing it REALLY is… then I’m sure we wouldn’t let it cause us so many problems.

So what am I talking about?

I’m talking about those feelings of not being good enough or worth a damn… and there is no better opportunity for your feelings to come out then when you’re starting or trying to build your own online business.  You see, we all enter this industry as complete newbies. Whether it’s network marketing itself, whether it’s learning how to use technology, the internet, no matter what it is… we all start at ground Zero. Unless you were born into it, which most average people aren’t, then we start at the bottom struggling…

And because of that… we don’t have a clue what we’re doing! I sure as heck didn’t. I fell for all the scams, I was in it for the money in the beginning. I ain’t gonna lie! Of course, things have changed now but when I first started, I was looking for that golden goose.  These moments are truly the testing phase of whether we are going to succeed in our business or not. Because when we set out to learn something new, or try something new, and we hit that first round of challenges, or that first round of obstacles… Here come those defective feelings.

But they aren’t alone…

You might feel stupid, you might feel worthless, you might start questioning your foundation as a person entirely. What kind of person can’t succeed right? And that little voice in your head says… “A bad person!”  And it’s at this point that many people choose to take the easier route out. They choose to walk away from what they ‘Think’ is causing these uncomfortable feelings. Meaning the business. But in truth… it’s NOT the business that causes these feelings. Here’s the tough part to swallow, you already have these feelings anyway. The business is just a trigger that brings them out. And you can either run from them and retreat to what’s comfortable or you can see this as the true gift that it really is and face these feelings… and figure out why they are there to begin with.

Why is this a gift?

Because when you do that… DOORS open up to you that previously were completely closed. Not only in the realm of business will you be a far more efficient and powerful entrepreneur but you will also have your personal and emotionally life radically transformed before your eyes. And that is what I consider one of the most beautiful things about the home based business industry. This industry can actually lead you to making crazy changes within your own self that will bring much more peace, emotional growth, and strength to your life.. and as all that grows… you just so happen to watch your wealth grow right beside you. In fact, I’ve never seen an industry period where the growth of your self correlates to the growth of your wealth as closely as this industry.

If you run away?

And guess what happens to those of us that hit these feelings, yet choose to run the other way… not much. Our lives don’t change, in fact they stagnate. And we hardly reach our financial goals because we didn’t have the emotional resiliency to charge through the tough times that we will inevitably face. These feelings are truly what I believe to be the biggest stumbling block in a person’s success… and also the reason a person will choose to quit on themselves.

Was is tough for me?

Darn right! I can’t even describe how tough it was when I first got started in this industry. I felt like I got kicked in the … ya you know! I spent months to years getting rejected by so many people I knew. I spent thousands of dollars on training materials, events, marketing needs, useless products, you name it. Do you think I felt very good? Do you think I felt like a competent and smart entrepreneur? I felt like Crap!

There were many times that I wanted to quit… that I questioned everything I was doing… but the reason for all of that was fear. I was just scared, and insecure, and because of that I almost quit a few times. I think I was afraid of success. I though that something as awesome as living that lifestyle, having my business and helping people do the same was too good for me… Yet something in me just wouldn’t let me. And this is honestly where I can say I’m very lucky because there was something in me that just wouldn’t let me quit.

I did NOT quit.

Every time I got kicked, I just got back up again and tried something else. I spent the first year or two on the internet just LEARNING. I wasn’t making any immediate big money. In fact, I still wasn’t making much money at all and was scared, insecure, having doubts… yet I had seen enough to know how much potential there really was here. I was being HONEST with myself about how I really felt. I wasn’t running away to what’s comfortable, I was facing what was uncomfortable and staring it in the face.

I was listening to my family doubt me, my friends mock me, and others tell me I need to “get real.”

Yet my desire to grow,my desire to really manifest the vision I had was so strong that I faced each feeling one by one and constantly just moved through them. And on top of that I questioned where they come from to begin with. And that’s the blessing. Because when you start to question these feelings… and really look into them… you find they have absolutely no truth what so ever. You see that they are merely creations of your mind… and once you see yourself for what you really are, you realize that those feelings are just a bunch of garbage! You can watch them pass like the clouds and know they have no reality what so ever. But you can’t do that unless you are dedicated to seeing yourself for what you really are because if you believe yourself to be those feelings, or thoughts, then you’re doomed to get carried off in them when they come about.

So what now?

Our sole focus, if we want true freedom from the limiting belief structures and feelings that hold us back in life, has to be on waking up to what we really are. Without the knowledge of what we really are, then every time something happens that triggers feelings of “defectiveness” or low self worth… off we go! You’ll find yourself repeating the same cycles over and over again throughout many different areas of your life. And just to let you know… if you think that by some how having a bunch of money is going to get rid of these feelings you are mistaken.

I can tell you from firsthand experience that just because you make a lot of money it doesn’t mean your problems are going to go away.

In fact, if you haven’t dealt with lots of issues in your life… money will almost always just magnify them. Take for instance the people who win the lottery and become horrible alcoholics, or addicts, and in less then 3 years are either dead or have lost everything. Or that dude that won a cut of 41 million tax free and freakin’ squandered it… (dumb a$$)

And in Network Marketing… that’s even more true. Because I’ve rarely met a single person who’s created crazy success in this industry that hasn’t done the work, both physical and emotional, to get there. So start watching the feelings that arise as you build your business in this industry more closely. Realize whether they are good or bad… they are a blessing… because they will show you the area’s you need to grow in. And if you put in the work… if you challenge yourself to GROW in those areas… you come out on the other end not only a far more successful entrepreneur…but a far more successful person as well.

Let me know your thoughts about this or the limiting beliefs that you may have or have had when you got started!!

Talk soon peeps!

Hey people, today I received this email from GRN support about a video Mark Hoverson did for his, and my, mentor Jim Rohn. This struck me as sheer fate that I got this email today… because earlier I was actually listening to Jim Rohn’s “The Day That Turns Your Life Around” cd product. I actually have the mp3′s of it on my nano… BUT as I was listening to this, I was taking down notes feverishly… like always… I love Jim Rohn.

Well, I get home and watch this tribute by Mark and his quotes that made a difference in his life, were a mirror of my own. Its amazing how you can surround yourself with someone or people that are or are on the same path as you… Its so vital that you surround yourself with people you want to emulate and learn from. Like Mark says, “Wake up to geniuses!” I am always listening to Jim Rohn, Tony Robbins, Mark or Jonathan Budd every morning… it truly sets the day in a positive light.

You can check out the video that Mark did here – Jim Rohn Tribute. < I don’t know how long he will have this up so watch it before he takes it down.

Have a great day people!

P.S. Here is the email that GRN sent out:

A person note from GRN member Mark Hoverson…

When I was in my late teenage years,
and I was just “curious” about business,
I bumped into a quote that changed my
life forever. I traced that quote back its
author. And began to study what this man
taught about lifestyle and profits.

Well, early this year, that dear multi-millionaire
mentor of mine died. So, I put together
a 33-minute tribute training in his honor.

It is fast-paced. Full of important lessons that
assisted me in totally transforming my lifestyle
and income through Global Resorts. This will
become an important piece in your 90-day
Renaissance strategy.

Carve out 33-minutes of zero-distraction. Take
out your journal and pen. And I think you will
absolutely love the treasury of wisdom this
legendary leader has left us:

http://www.webinar1000.com/jim-rohn.html

To your success,
Mark Hoverson

For myself, in my own experience, when I first came into this industry… I was focused on creating wealth.

Focused on what can I get and how much money can I make… focusing on all these external things, and it made me attached to the outcome of what I was doing.  So if I was talking to a prospect, and let’s say something didn’t turn out the way I thought it should have, or they didn’t join me in business — I would get emotionally… well, a little upset.  You know, “why did that happen?”, “how come this person didn’t join me?”, or “what did I do wrong?” and kind of always grasping for something, always needing something to make me successful, or to make me happy, or to make me fulfilled. I think that that’s one of the things that so many people, when they first come into this industry, really don’t understand… is that you have to be detached from the outcome.

I hope that definitely covers the importance of really detaching… and again, that feel behind the message of ‘letting go’… of having it not be the outcome that we’re after. Because here we are in an industry where everything happens based on recruiting and all these people coming into your business, and here we are asking you to “Hey, let it all go!  Just let it go!  Don’t worry about it!”.  And when you do that, it’ll happen so much more!  But the cool thing about language, is that language makes the most sense in total paradoxes, I’ve really found that.  You might have heard the expression that you have to ‘surrender to gain freedom’, you have to let go to really ‘have it all’.  And that if you hang on to everything really tight, you really don’t have anything at all, because it’s all so flimsy; it can be taken from us at any point at any time, anyway.

I hope all of you were really just freeing yourself more by listening and NOT being attached to the outcomes so that you can really just focus on the joy, what’s really going on here, and know that if I’m just doing things right–and I’m just coming from a place of confidence and empowerment within myself–it’s just very natural that people are going to be attracted to me and want to do business with me and want to work with me, and that when I’m communicating value to people, they’re going to see it and want to reciprocate with partnering up…

So like I said in the video, leave your comments below and let me know what you think OR don’t think…!

Take care everyone,

Toki Tover

This was a video from the back office of Carbon Copy Pro training section that I thought I would share here with all of you… This video shares a distinct message that I think people who lack focus and have that poverty mindset can benefit from.

Let me know what you guys think and if you resonate with the message it is telling…

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