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Sometimes this “defective feeling” that we have can be the number one cause of most people’s failures at almost anything they do in life, not just in their new online business…

And it’s something that shows it’s little head throughout many different parts of our lives and if we ONLY knew how to ‘See’ it… if we only knew what a blessing it REALLY is… then I’m sure we wouldn’t let it cause us so many problems.

So what am I talking about?

I’m talking about those feelings of not being good enough or worth a damn… and there is no better opportunity for your feelings to come out then when you’re starting or trying to build your own online business.  You see, we all enter this industry as complete newbies. Whether it’s network marketing itself, whether it’s learning how to use technology, the internet, no matter what it is… we all start at ground Zero. Unless you were born into it, which most average people aren’t, then we start at the bottom struggling…

And because of that… we don’t have a clue what we’re doing! I sure as heck didn’t. I fell for all the scams, I was in it for the money in the beginning. I ain’t gonna lie! Of course, things have changed now but when I first started, I was looking for that golden goose.  These moments are truly the testing phase of whether we are going to succeed in our business or not. Because when we set out to learn something new, or try something new, and we hit that first round of challenges, or that first round of obstacles… Here come those defective feelings.

But they aren’t alone…

You might feel stupid, you might feel worthless, you might start questioning your foundation as a person entirely. What kind of person can’t succeed right? And that little voice in your head says… “A bad person!”  And it’s at this point that many people choose to take the easier route out. They choose to walk away from what they ‘Think’ is causing these uncomfortable feelings. Meaning the business. But in truth… it’s NOT the business that causes these feelings. Here’s the tough part to swallow, you already have these feelings anyway. The business is just a trigger that brings them out. And you can either run from them and retreat to what’s comfortable or you can see this as the true gift that it really is and face these feelings… and figure out why they are there to begin with.

Why is this a gift?

Because when you do that… DOORS open up to you that previously were completely closed. Not only in the realm of business will you be a far more efficient and powerful entrepreneur but you will also have your personal and emotionally life radically transformed before your eyes. And that is what I consider one of the most beautiful things about the home based business industry. This industry can actually lead you to making crazy changes within your own self that will bring much more peace, emotional growth, and strength to your life.. and as all that grows… you just so happen to watch your wealth grow right beside you. In fact, I’ve never seen an industry period where the growth of your self correlates to the growth of your wealth as closely as this industry.

If you run away?

And guess what happens to those of us that hit these feelings, yet choose to run the other way… not much. Our lives don’t change, in fact they stagnate. And we hardly reach our financial goals because we didn’t have the emotional resiliency to charge through the tough times that we will inevitably face. These feelings are truly what I believe to be the biggest stumbling block in a person’s success… and also the reason a person will choose to quit on themselves.

Was is tough for me?

Darn right! I can’t even describe how tough it was when I first got started in this industry. I felt like I got kicked in the … ya you know! I spent months to years getting rejected by so many people I knew. I spent thousands of dollars on training materials, events, marketing needs, useless products, you name it. Do you think I felt very good? Do you think I felt like a competent and smart entrepreneur? I felt like Crap!

There were many times that I wanted to quit… that I questioned everything I was doing… but the reason for all of that was fear. I was just scared, and insecure, and because of that I almost quit a few times. I think I was afraid of success. I though that something as awesome as living that lifestyle, having my business and helping people do the same was too good for me… Yet something in me just wouldn’t let me. And this is honestly where I can say I’m very lucky because there was something in me that just wouldn’t let me quit.

I did NOT quit.

Every time I got kicked, I just got back up again and tried something else. I spent the first year or two on the internet just LEARNING. I wasn’t making any immediate big money. In fact, I still wasn’t making much money at all and was scared, insecure, having doubts… yet I had seen enough to know how much potential there really was here. I was being HONEST with myself about how I really felt. I wasn’t running away to what’s comfortable, I was facing what was uncomfortable and staring it in the face.

I was listening to my family doubt me, my friends mock me, and others tell me I need to “get real.”

Yet my desire to grow,my desire to really manifest the vision I had was so strong that I faced each feeling one by one and constantly just moved through them. And on top of that I questioned where they come from to begin with. And that’s the blessing. Because when you start to question these feelings… and really look into them… you find they have absolutely no truth what so ever. You see that they are merely creations of your mind… and once you see yourself for what you really are, you realize that those feelings are just a bunch of garbage! You can watch them pass like the clouds and know they have no reality what so ever. But you can’t do that unless you are dedicated to seeing yourself for what you really are because if you believe yourself to be those feelings, or thoughts, then you’re doomed to get carried off in them when they come about.

So what now?

Our sole focus, if we want true freedom from the limiting belief structures and feelings that hold us back in life, has to be on waking up to what we really are. Without the knowledge of what we really are, then every time something happens that triggers feelings of “defectiveness” or low self worth… off we go! You’ll find yourself repeating the same cycles over and over again throughout many different areas of your life. And just to let you know… if you think that by some how having a bunch of money is going to get rid of these feelings you are mistaken.

I can tell you from firsthand experience that just because you make a lot of money it doesn’t mean your problems are going to go away.

In fact, if you haven’t dealt with lots of issues in your life… money will almost always just magnify them. Take for instance the people who win the lottery and become horrible alcoholics, or addicts, and in less then 3 years are either dead or have lost everything. Or that dude that won a cut of 41 million tax free and freakin’ squandered it… (dumb a$$)

And in Network Marketing… that’s even more true. Because I’ve rarely met a single person who’s created crazy success in this industry that hasn’t done the work, both physical and emotional, to get there. So start watching the feelings that arise as you build your business in this industry more closely. Realize whether they are good or bad… they are a blessing… because they will show you the area’s you need to grow in. And if you put in the work… if you challenge yourself to GROW in those areas… you come out on the other end not only a far more successful entrepreneur…but a far more successful person as well.

Let me know your thoughts about this or the limiting beliefs that you may have or have had when you got started!!

Talk soon peeps!